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March 08 The Uncouth OneIt's a little strange having this monster inside you. While you are in command most of the time, this fellow shows up every now and then and you don't even know he'd been out having a field day. Yes, I'll explain. You see, having a colourful language has always been a way of life for me. Maybe not always, but for the last 8 years for sure. Back home, one is forced to control it in the presence of the folks, and to some extent in public places. And its fantastic because it works! You keep on uttering the worst swear words for hours on end in college, and get back home...and manage to spend hours on end without a single one accidentally slipping out!
You know, these internal control mechanisms...they are so incredible! And the best part is it comes completely naturally with no need for explicit control on your part! But now I'm thinking that it doesn't quite work as well. For nearly six months running now, my tongue has had a free rein sayng what I've wanted to, when I've wanted to, virtually at will. I swear in the univ, I swear at home, I swear over the phone and over chat. I swear in the lab, at birthdays, while walking around...purely because I can and no one's the wiser for it! So all of a sudden I am fearful that I have completely lost control over that monster fellow, he is the one in command.
Not many, but a few people can attest to the fact that at times, I can show such contrasting behaviours, it seems outside the realm of normalcy. You could say I'm fantasizing that I'm suffering from some weird psychological disorder, but ever so often even I don't see this change happening. Its not even subconscious, its unconscious. I mean, you see a female with huge **** walking by in this place, and you just say it out loud! It's liberating, but also frightening at the same time ;)
But you know the title comes from the fact that most females around here keep giving me this baleful look on every occassion. Not surpising considering the reputation I seem to be making for myself. "The Uncouth One" they'll call me. Most of them will be hard pressed to believe that I am also capable of serious thinking, let alone capable of (and even inclined to) write and read as much as I can. You know, I just don't seem like an intelligent, cultured fellow! What I do look like is one of those rowdies who cannot control his language even in female presence. That by far does nothing help my chick situation, or the lack of it. Heck what am I rambling about, there is no chick here I am even half interested in.
But then why am I enjoying making myself this reputation? Am I behaving out of character, or am I finally behaving in character, letting my baser instincts dictate more than they should? Even more importantly, have I gone completely insane writing about something as foolish as this? Oh fuck this, I'll write something better tomorrow... December 19 The Return: Transient or steady state?Sadly, I must agree that it'll take an engineer to fully appreciate the meaning of the title. I am really not trying to create the impression here that I am studying with all due diligence, simply because I'm not! But the title simply reflects a constant yearning to be back to the "good old times" when I used to write and read blogs with amazing regularity, and it was a feature of my life. Thngs have, to say the least, changed since then, not just with me, but with most of my blogging circle. Nobody is as regular as they once were, and most have plain and simply quit. Whether in transience or in the steady state, I don't know. Heck, I don't know that about myself, heaven knows I am in no position to know about others.
But back to the yearning. I had finals the previous week, and as always they seemed to dig up the writer inside of me. Poor fellow virtually had to be resuscitated from the dead, and he is quite weak even now, but he is breathing. The question to be answered is whether he will be fed with a steady source of nutrition, or left to starve and die, never to be revived. There were so many things I had planned to write back then, all of a sudden I have no clue what to write about. It's less of a writer's block and more of inertia I'd say. A week back, I thought I would start banging the keyboard no sooner my exams were done. But I am finally getting down to it only 3 days later, and spewing out pointless crap. Lest you assume that I am claiming that my other stuff is profound, I am talking here about relatively crappier stuff.
mysticalnightpixie happened to drop by some days back, and I must admit I was quite pleasantly surprised that she remembered and took the pain of dropping by. I must admit that I have abysmaly failed to keep contact with the others, and it was a really nice feeling. So now I'm puzzled whether it is sensible to consider taking up "full time blogging" all over again, meaning obviously updating at least once a week, given that most of my past compatriots are no longer really around. Guess there will be a few new kids on the block, but the comment business, as pleasing as it is on the high days, also disgruntles me. Sadly, it has become such an integral part of the blogosphere because it capitalizes on such a fundamental human instinct of needing appreciation from others. Self satisfaction is a very rare virtue, and it makes sense too, for it is something I consider to be the ultimate virtue. A man who is at peace with the self needs nothing more on any front- social, economical, physical or otherwise. His universe is self-contained, between him and The Maker.
I am going on tangents again, but I could say that that is the purpose of this entry, it is just to get the juices flowing (the creative ones you pervert!). I have considered writing so many pieces, but there is very little motivation. There is no real place where I can possibly publish my writing in this place, except of course on the blogosphere, where everyone has access to it, but nobody reads it! I did think of writing some extensions to my piece on MS applications for internal circulation, but that needs to be thought over as to what it should feature and how it should go. This paragraph has been entirely stupid, even by my standards.
But what else do I have to talk about? The fundamental assumption here being that having moved to a wholly different culture, there will be something to write about. Well, there is, but it isn't even half interesting and not even anything anyone would be remotely enthused to read. I have been watching some movies though, and I could always take refuge in writing so called movie reviews, and I will probably end up doing that. But the thing is, its been so long since I wrote something good, that I am positively *help me find a good word here* about writing something kickass. See, I can't even find the right words!
So, now I am boring even myself (and only myself by the look of it!) with this incessant rambling, but I am kinda forcing myself to do it. I often end up churning decent stuff once I have let all the crap out :P. Damn, I'm gonna stop here. I know I'm licked when I can think of absolutely nothing to write! Till the next entry then! July 06 That Crazy ThingTwo species of people are particularly prolific all over India - madmen and Godmen. Who is holier of the two, is not as obvious as it seems. While Godmen occupy only certain 'exalted' locales, madmen are quite as omnipresent as about anything can be. You'll see them wandering on the streets, in torn clothes, matted hair, carrying out conversations with the infinite selves within themselves. Makes one sad to look at them, you wonder what the man must have gone through to end up in this state, and how pathetic it must be to live in that state of squalor. But then I think I've found an exception.
This one is technically a madwoman (sic), mad enough to qualify for an award. I have never seen her outside of a 20 ft stretch of road, and never seen that stretch of road without her for quite a few years. I can safely hypothesize that she rarely, if ever, has ever left that 'home' of hers. Usually, she is seated majestically on the footboard of one of the parked two wheelers. Her usual position is with her nose stuck up in the air, preening herself in a manner that can be described as regal. I saw her in conversation today, apparently with thin air, but practically with an entity she believes to be quite real. I think she considers herself to be a queen, and most of her routine conversations involve commanding mere minions to do her bidding. It doesn't quite matter to her that no such minions exist and that she lives off discarded food and is the object of hundreds of critical glances daily.
Gives me a feeling that she is much happier than most of us are. While its true that that her existence is quite unenviable and pointedly useless, she lives in a world where she is far better off than many of us who lead lives which have some 'point'. While we trudge through our daily share of miseries, she floats through them; for as far as she is concerned, they don't even exist! What put her into this condition must have undoubtedly been very traumatic, scars that deep which refuse to heal don't form easily. We human beings are suprisingly resilient. That given, she is probably far better off in her make believe world than she would be facing up to what has happened to her. After all, her reality is just as real as yours of mine. Isn't all reality ultimately what me make it out to be?
Of course, all mad men don't end up with the same kind of luck. Many of them spend their lives fighting with themselves (physically, literally), shouting abuses incessantly to an invisible enemy who won't leave them alone, and reliving some past incident that leaves them dithered. A strange way for the human mind to work. It makes you crazy when it can't take the pain, but only the lucky ones leave the pain behind. The others must simply live with it, not even understanding what it is that they are living. Or whether they are living.
Just so much for craziness, I'm suddenly detecting a lot of symptoms of it in myself! Heck, aren't we all; I just have a little more of it!
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.
-Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
All of us sane people are the ones who are truly insane. And those we call insane, are dancing only for they can hear the music of The Maker... June 26 All in the name of loveJust today, I decided after a sizeable period to read a real 'newspaper'. While the Times hardly qualifies as such these days, it is still better than Mumbai Mirror and Midday, which is all I read in an average day. As is their wont, there was an article today with a graphic photograph of a girl whose clothes were literally saturated with blood, being held by her 'boyfriend' as people looked on. The twist? The said boyfriend had stabbed her in broad daylight as people watched on, then had stabbed himself. No, I don't wish to talk about apathetic Mumbaikars at this point, there will be time for it later. What I do want to talk about is the very fact that the stabbing took place.
The story has it that the two were seeing each other and wanted to get married. The only stumbling block was that the girl's mother wasn't ready. The boy was pestering the girl to somehow get her mother's approval. He waited some, then some more...and then he cracked. Seemingly deciding to himself that it couldn't happen, in one misplaced moment, he decided to murder his girlfriend and kill himself to set things right. Of course, none of that happened. He is safe, his girl critical. She might not live, if she does, she might not be quite the same. And all this in the name of love?
As far as emotions go, love has been the most extolled. While most of the focus has been on romantic love, all forms of love have been much praised - love for one's parents, friends, country being some of them. But looking at this report and the fact that it isn't an isolated incident forces a rethink. Just as the strength of love as an emotion brings out the best in an individual, it also brings to fore the most baser, most bestial instincts in an individual. History has witnessed this time and again. The present sees it everyday, as spurned lovers stab, burn and fling acid at the same objects of their worship; the very same for which they once pledged their lives. We see it in the millions insistent on waging a holy war for love of their religion. We see it in thousands commiting wanton and cowardly acts of terrorism for the love of their nation.
Wars have been fought over women, I can't quote any - not being a history buff - but they have happened for sure. Rulers have jeopardized entire kingdoms in such fights for personal gratification. This, for an ostensibly pure feeling such as love. It must make one question the very way in which love works. I harbour no doubts about the power of love to change things and do good. A mother will go to great lengths for her child, a soldier will not think twice before laying his life on the line for love of his country. But ever so often, something, somewhere goes terribly wrong.
Then why does love lead one to destroy the very thing one loves? Is it the raw passion that stops one from being rational and objective? Or is the possessiveness that slowly creeps in, unnoticed, and tarnishes the purity of love? Likely, it is both. The source of its strength itself proves to be its downfall. It is not just difficult, but virtually impossible to rein in. And too much of nothing is a good thing. When a lover thinks about what has happened, explores how he feels about it, he is so overcome by the tempestuos nature of his emotions, that his mind shuts down. It is at this point that his vile side takes over, just so as to suppress the maelstrom. He is no longer in control of himself.
The stage is set. He now does something you never expected him to do. He will repent his actions all his life. And in his afterlife. But its already too late. Who is to blame then? Is it the individual whose mind wasn't strong enough to deal with those emotions? Is it the emotion itself, because our innate wickedness is only suppressed and never removed, and the emotion triggers it? Or do we blame our maker for our faulty design? Now there is a question I'd rather not ponder!
Reminds me of a movie where Barbara Streisand falls in love with a mathematician. She's a teacher and once asks her class, that even knowing that love will eventually only bring us pain, leave us with broken hearts and crushed spirits; why do people fall in love over and over and over again? Leave aside all complex explanation. They do it only because while it lasts, it feels like nothing else can... June 23 Things I'll Never Say!If I could say what I want to say
I'd say I wanna blow you... away Be with you every night Am I squeezing you too tight If I could say what I want to see I want to see you go down On one knee Marry me today Guess I'm wishing my life away With these things I'll never say -Things I'll never say,
Avril Lavigne Well said Avril! Well said indeed!
Duur jitna bhi tum mujh se
Paas tere mein Ab to aadat si hai mujh ko aise jeenay mein Zindagi se koi shikwa hee nahi hai Ab to zinda hoon mein is neelay aasman mein -Aadat,
Atif Aslam No reason to complain there. If you don't have the courage to change your destiny, you just have to live with it. Zindagi se koi shikwa bhi nahi hai, but the fact is, door jitna bhi tum mujh se, paas tere main...
Too much singsong, eh? I hope I'll snap out of it and write something good soon :( June 13 Destined to be unsaid, destined to remain unheardI just happened to have a conversation (more like scrap exchange) with a good friend of mine recently. I would like to reproduce it here, without his permission of course!
Buddy:
wassap pure-genius? .. ;) Me:
Gimme a sec...am yet to explore the "subject" of your reply sms Me:
Oh just that? The old one? I'm disappointed Buddy:
dude .. i barely knew her .. not that that has changed.. damn,.. dont thses women understand when a guy actually reeks with the "main tumhaare liye apni jaam bhi de doonga" sentiment? .. Me: Temme about it man! They just don't seem to get it :( All of us sailing the same boat man, till we find it inside us to actually TELL them (how crude!) that such is the case... Buddy:
yea.. and then that doesnt seem to work either.. :'( .. Me: Unfortunately, I've never been able to take myself to that point. Just the fear that that won't work... I hope to take inspiration from you when I hear your tale on the next tell-all nightout!
Does the conversation make sense to you, in part at least? Did to me. By now, I just cannot draw enough parallels between his and my situation, there are so many of them. The fundamental difference being in the last step, as elucidated by the last two parts of that conversation.
So, these words got me thinking:
To martyr yourself to caution
Is not going to help at all Because there'll be no safety in numbers When the right one walks out of the door - Lost for words,
Pink Floyd
But I felt more like these:
When you want it the most there's no easy way out
When you're ready to go and your heart's left in doubt Don't give up on your faith Love comes to those who believe it And that's the way it is - That's the way it is, Celine Dion
So however true this has been for the last few weeks:
All day Im walking in a dream
I think about you constantly Just like an ever flowing stream Your memory haunts me constantly - Constantly,
Cliff Richard
My indecisive mine keeps reminding me that maybe I'm being stupid:
Mere naseeb mein tu hai ke nahi
Tere naseeb mein main hoon ke nahi Yeh hum kya jaane, yeh wahi jaane, jisne likha hai sab ka naseeb - Naseeb,
Anand Bakshi
But a man's gotta do what he's gotta do, even if he doesn't know his destiny:
Ain't nothin' gonna change
If we stay 'round her Gotta do what it takes Cuz it's all in our hands We all make mistakes Yeah, but it's never too late To start again, take another breath And say another prayer - Fly Away,
Aerosmith
Wouldn't it be easier if:
Look into my eyes you will see
What you mean to me Search your heart search your soul And when you find me there you'll search no more - Everything I do,
Bryan Adams
You need to make a choice before you do what has to be done, to even see if it has to be done and:
Whatever you do,
Don’t congratulate yourself too much, Or berate yourself either, Your choices are half chance, So are everybody else’s - Sunscreen, Baz Luhrmann
The fear is so real:
Nobody said it was easy
It’s such a shame for us to part Nobody said it was easy No one ever said it would be this hard - The Scientist,
Coldplay
My life is going all weird. Turned on its head for the 4th time. Will things change any this time? Or will the perpetual status quo exceed to infinity? Stay tuned. June 09 Movie Review: Ocean's 13Plans don't always materialise, but this one did, and I finally managed to catch Ocean's 13 on the first show of the first day. Woohoo!
Anyway, on to more pertinent matters. Having paid 120 bucks for the tickets, we were quite desperate to watch a good movie. This given that the last movie we saw was Spidey 3 which sucked, and O12 which was no good either. So, it was with this apprehension that we settled into our seats at Sterling, which has sadly been converted to a mulitplex.
The movie starts off well enough, with Brad Pitt dropping off a heist in progress, because Daniel Ocean has called for him. The first heist was for money, the second one to return Andy Garcia's money, the third one is for a much nobler cause. It so happens that their good friend Reuben has been cheated out of his money by another hotelier (Al Pacino). He is now not only poor, but has nothing to look forward to in life. He has a heart attack that leaves him barely alive. It is now upto Daniel Ocean and his cronies to give Reuben a new chance to live by wresting from Al Pacino what he has unfairly taken away.
And how can they do that? Al Pacino's board has 6 out of 9 members whom he does not 'own'. If the hotel does badly, then he will be kicked off the board. Just punishment. So the plot begins. How do you ensure that the casino goes bust and that he doesn't win the coveted 5 diamond award that all his hotels have won?
Enter a maze of people and technology. The rest of the journey is a whirlwind through plausible and implausible ploys and technologies. But all said the movie keeps you hooked. The plot flows smoothly, the editing is quite brilliant. The story may seem far fetched at times, but its definitely gripping if you aren't too churlish and accept it for the movie it is. Hats off to the team of script writers who came up with this story. Its fantastic, even better than the original O11. The movie is full of ready wit, one liners and the like. You'll find yourself laughing through most of it, even if it isn't a comedy. You'll feel the goosebumps rise as facets of the plot are revealed and things click into place within the movie and within your mind.
The actors are seasoned as always, no reason to complain. George Clooney and Matt Damon are brilliant, Brad Pitt is also good, though he has started looking old. The rest of the cast does well with their limited roles. Al Pacino is a little disappointing.
Overall rating: 4.5 stars. Definitely worth a watch, more precisely a must see. June 07 The Almost Final End!It had to happen someday and it finally did! Long after the last working day of college and our send off party, my 4 year association with my engineering college ended yesterday with the last paper of my 8th semester exam. It's strange, because in all these years, I've never belonged so much to any place as this one. Not even to my home probably. But my emotions on these final days have absolutely no intensity. Maybe things haven't sunken in as yet. I'll probably realise the full weight of the separation someday later.
This place has been so close to me, the people, the settings, the daily happenings, the ups and downs. Its so surreal to think that I won't be experiencing any of this again. Stranger still to think that I'll rarely be seeing some of the people, and never be seeing most of them. Stepping into a totally alien world, from one which meant absolute familiarity. A place where I knew all the right people, although how well I knew any of them is debatable.
Now that I have time on my hands, I intend to get back to reading and writing in a big way. Though my readership is probably about 2% of what it was at its peak (that means 50 at its peak, 1 now. Me that is.), I really need to keep writing if I am to keep whatever way with words I have. Since I'm a little too uninspired to think up a tale, I'm planning to write a few lines on some of the people I've known. Something just to get the creative juices flowing. If they were ever there. If there is still at least a trickle left. May 22 The Overweening MankindMan has always been a bundle of pride about what he has supposedly achieved. Be it the advances in science or the birth of civilised society, the creation of history or the growth of intelligent life. Man has prouded himself about being the creator of his own destiny. Men have pursued glory through their achievements, hrough creating a place for themselves in history.
Time out. Step out and look around. Just look once at the miracle of creation. Not just the flowers and the birds, but the firmaments and their celestial decorations. What part of this miracle is mankind? What is it that we regard ourselves so highly for? Each day, we ponder our decisions as if they decide the ultimate outcome for the cosmos. Optimistically, our choices make an iota of a difference. Practically, none at all. Yet mankind fails to understand this inalienable truth! Which inalienable truth?
The world is a playground. We are objects on this playground. Objects controlled by the Master Puppeteer. The situations which arise in our lives, the choices we make, our highs and our lows, imponderable as they may seem, are not governed by us. They never have been. This is precisely why the question Why which has been incessantly asked for centuries cannot be answered. The world is maya and things are as they are because they cannot be any other way! Believing that advances in medicine and rocket science are our doing is merely being blinded by our arrogance. The arrogance that makes us believe that we control all, that we define the future. I hate to say it, but neither of our lives are worth much whatever we do - win the Nobel peace prize, heal millions, or get killed in a robbery gone bad.
Fatalistic, not really. Misleading, maybe. I still say that i believe in karma. I also believe that the Cosmos ensures that evil can only be supressed, never ended. Because the fight between good and evil is the only thing that keeps this world balanced precariously. What exactly am I trying to say here? I'm not sure. But I've seen it with my own eyes. I've seen those strings. Open your mind's eye and the Master Puppeteer will show them to you himself. May 01 Umm...movietime?I've been writing such crap on my blog, and that too so occasionally, I feel the writer inside me dying. He might not be a Nobel/Pulitzer winner, but whatever of a writer I've ever had inside, he is fading away. And fading fast. Thanks to me writing only when there is something I whine about! The last few times there was something I felt I could write on, I never ended up doing it and now I have nothing to write on! So, I decided to write briefly on the movies I've seen, maybe on a book I read. Yeah, writing reviews does sound desperate, so in my defence, this isn't intended to be a review! :D
I'm not too much of a lets-go-catch-a-movie-in-a-theatre person, but the arrival of my very pregnant sister who happens to be a major movie fan has changed things. So I've actually seen THREE movies! First was "The Pursuit of Happyness", then came "The Namesake" and the last one was "Bheja Fry". Also happen to have read "Artemis Fowl" by Eoin Colfer in the meanwhile. Now that we have a job at hand, let's get to it!
I wanted to watch the first movie because I thought it would do good for my mood, the promos et al made it seem like an uplifiting movie. A story of a guy who rises from difficulty to achieve success. Turns out the movie is about that, but it ends up depressing you more. The whole struggle portion is so protracted, you soon grow weary of it. The movie emphasises too much on the MANNER of suffering, rather than his METHODS to overcome it. It ends on a happy note, with that brilliant line, "And this little part of my life....is called happiness". Not highly recommended for sure, this one can be given a miss.
The second movie I saw thanks to my sister, was not the sort I would usually watch. I haven't even seen the book, much less read it, so I was clueless as to what I should expect. I'm still unsure of what I thought about the movie, maybe it will make more sense if I ever see it again. What I did figure, was that the movie tries to figure out people and relationships, how things change in either direction, and how different people respond to these changes. Oh damn, that sounds like crap!
And the third was what we collouqially call paisa vasool! Absolutely brilliant movie! Vinay Pathak and Rajat Kapoor carry it all the way. Ranvir Shorey is great in his cameo. This is how a real clean comedy can be. No nudity, no sexual innuendos. I really hope this movie heralds a new era in Hindi comedy, moving away from the Masti, Kya Kool Hai Hum, blah blah genre. A must see, this one! You have to be crazy not to laugh your guts out in this one, however old you maybe, whatever your taste, anything.
Planning and hoping to catch Spiderman 3 soon! Oh yeah, the book! Well, this is one more in the magical genre, a spinoff from the HP/LOTR series. This one talks about fairies rather than witches. Not a badly written book, it is quite creative and all. The problem is that it tends to become a little too childish at times, besides the fact that it focusses more on fairy technology than fairy magic. I mean, c'mon, if I had to read technology, wouldn't I much rather read Chip or Digit magazine? Maybe the rest of the series is different, but this book is that way.
Sigh, there is so much happening and so much to write about, but its just too tiresome to! If anyone is reading this, drop me a line, give me a hint as to what I can write on!! April 16 Reckless, Unfeeling and IndecisiveI hate myself today. I mean, I really hate myself today. There is no dearth of things to do, no paucity of priorities to be taken care of. But even this given, I while away the entire morning on "pleasurable activity", just as I have wasted virtually the entire week. Pointless hours spent on the computer, in front of the TV, when so much has to be done.
I have lost all concern for my future. While what I should be doing is finishing my work and hitting the books for the exams coming ever closer, I choose to be bored with work, beg for sympathy from myself, and justify the way my day goes. I need to be thinking with extreme seriousness about which university I will attend, but that is plain too boring. I think I don't deserve a future. I have lost all control over myself, I just can't seem to force myself to do the right thing. What good is it knowing the right thing, if you cannot do it?
That was the reckless part. I just bid goodbye to my college of four years day before. Before that I bid farewell to a lot of college activities with which I was intimately involved. But nothing seems to sink in! It's almost as it all my emotions as well as my tear ducts have simply dried out! I try hard to identify with those emotions, but I seem to have become totally wooden, unfeeling, unflinching....almost not human...
Indecisive about so many of the major decisions that need to be taken. Indecisive about what I must do to get my life back on track.
After so long, I wanted to write something better. I shall soon hopefully. For the time being, we have a derailed train that needs to be recovered... February 27 The StarHe was an odd sort of guy, wanting to be at the middle of it all but still pining for soltitude. Wanting to speak incessantly, yet treasuring silence. He never knew where he should be, quiet and reserved, or brash and outgoing. He kept being both all the time, flip flopping, never at peace. He never seemed to belong. Those phases...
This phase was of the latter. After a certain degree of being inconspicuous, he yearned for the limelight again. It was nothing new, he'd been through this before. Having that decided, he moved decisively in that direction. He spoke to the right people, did the right things, was seen at the right places. Before long, everything seemed to fall into place. He was attending all that he wanted to, talking to everyone who he wanted to. People knew him. People whom he'd always wanted to know him knew him!
But facades don't last long. He kept trying to make himself believe that it was all true, but he couldn't keep fooling himself forever. He had been foolish, but not that foolish. While deceiving himself that he truly belonged here, he now had to accept that he never had. They never wanted him. He had been the one tagging along with them only to be "cool", to be "known". They had never given a damn about him. He went along, they smiled, they made small talk. It never mattered to them if he didn't breathe the next day. All this time he was carefully "cultivating", he never once gave a thought how many would stand by him in tough times, how many would remember his face or name a couple of years down the line. And while pursuing them, he never gave due importance to those who were truly his friends, those who would care for him, because they didn't fit into his scheme of things. They weren't going to get him popularity, they weren't going to make him a star.
As he sat there alone, a turbulent storm in his conscience, he realised that he had nobody to speak his mind to, not a single living entity to whom he could bare his soul. Those lines from that song echoed in his head, "It's kind of hard when you ain't got no friends, He put his life to an end, They might remember him then". He didn't want the truth, he wanted to go away from it all. No he didn't want to quit, he just wanted to take flight.
All he had to do was jump and spread his wings, he wasn't afraid, a whole knew world was waiting for him. A world where he belonged, that jump was easy... February 10 Indecision IIIIt was long back in time,
That era ended,
All was fine,
The hurt was mended,
I believed it over,
There would be no more,
I believed in my power,
I had closed that door,
Fate always has other plans,
My will weakens,
As ceaseless time spans,
My concern deepens,
The truth I have long faced,
Grim is the view,
In my consciousness is still placed,
A picture of you,
What can it be but blind fate,
I cannot take the pain,
However deeply myself I hate,
I'm falling for you all over again...
Do nothing, just let it be,
It's only some time,
Good sense will come to me,
Till then, let me revel in this crime,
Till then, let me feel sublime... January 26 Look behind...no ahead...no wait!All credit to mysticalnightpixie for bringing this entry on. Not just that she gives good advice, her comment made me want to go back a little. To my "glory days" back in the blogging world. I just happened to cursorily go through those, the comments people have posted, the comments people have told me personally. I don't know why, it just made me feel a little better, a little happier, a little more capable. Given that this is like living in the past, that those days are gone may never return. But seeking faith from the past isn't so bad!
Practising something over a period of time is supposed to make you better at it, looks like writing is an exception. I used to write truckloads last year, fairly good stuff too. Now, my last formal article (on orkut) was written back in August 2006, my last good blog probably dates even earlier. A lot of people were expecting me to write for them, I was also expecting to write. But I just can't seem to come across a topic I can write a good article on! The brainstorming concept is entirely lost on me, it has no yield!
But I do feel a little like writing, not these crap introspections and insecurities, I feel like writing something REAL. Of course, if feelings naturally translated into something concrete, I'd have written a couple of bestsellers by this time :P. Aah for that stroke of inspiration!
"Grief is the agony of an instant, the indulgence of grief the blunder of a life."
-Benjamin Disraeli
Put in pixie's words:
"don't think too much hercules...you have a tlanet for words..its a given..now just write whatever you feel without thinking each day...don't put thought into it...
one you might actually churn out something very interesting..something no one has thought about before because the truth is...you yourself did not think too much about it.." Time to think less, live more. Live more, write more. By the way, I have apparently cleared my 7th semester, don't yet know how much I've scored. January 23 PainSeems to me like lack of inspiration is the numero one as far as writer killers go, some like me manage to churn out crap even with none of that stuff to go, but the majority eventually succumb. I mentioned "Risk" by Dick Francis, the same omnibus also features "Longshot". There is a peripheral character in the novel, a woman who is a very famous author and a ruthless critic. She opines that depth and insight comes to humans only after long suffering, then be it physical or mental. It can be a series of rejections, it can be living in penury, it can be prolonged bodily harm. The essential ingredient just seems to be suffering.
Not that it doesn't make sense prima facie. A person tends to dig deeper, ask questions, understand the language of The Maker, only when he is forced to by his circumstances. Insight comes from introspection, this tends to be most severe in trying conditions. Insight also comes from seeing not just the best, but the worst of people. Conversations with The Maker make sense when seeking reasons, yearning for change. But to seek inspiration, to seek enlightenment, is there no option to suffering? How about Lord Buddha a.k.a. Prince Siddharth, who sought to see beyond the rosy picture he saw in the palace grounds? His enlightenment, as far as my knowledge goes, resulted from seeing suffering not undergoing it. Am I mistaken? One could say spiritual enlightenment and inspiration in writing don't relate too much, they wouldn't be wrong either, I'm simply making an attempt to correlate.
I've often dreamed of writing a masterpiece unseen by the world, but by now I am forced to admit that I simply do not exhibit any sufficient talent or signs of even getting near to realising that dream. Is suffering what I've been missing? Is that what is fettering my mind, holding back my soul from revealing itself? Is there any hidden potential that can still unlock? I only have the questions, never the answers. The current plan is to determine where I can source some suffering from. Maybe half a dozen rejected proposals would be sufficient? Naah, I'm incapable of that, I'll think up something else. Suggestions are welcome. January 19 FearThe whole difference between animals and humans is supposed to be that animals operate on instinct and humans on intellect, but humans out do animals in their more baser instincts, fear being one of them. I've just been doing a bit of reading, finally drawing myself away from the computer and television for sufficient periods of time, last among them being "Risk" by Dick Francis. For those unfamiliar, he writes novels which usually combine crime and horses. An odd combination no doubt, but he does it exceedingly well.
The novel is about an accountant cum amateur jockey who has a penchant and an ability to catch embezzlers. He gets abducted, is kept on a ship cooped up in a sail locker, suffers quite badly because he has sea sickness. But he is sharp, smart, keeps his wits intact and manages to escape. But then he has no clue who did it, why it was done, whether it will be done again! He must live in fear, continuously looking over his shoulder for the invisible assailant. The inevitable does happen, he is abducted again, only to be released a week or so later.
Just thinking of how his state of mind must have been, knocked off a couple of hours of my sleep. Imagine living through two weeks of impossible solitary existence, escaping, having the same misery befall you yet again! And between those periods, a wary way with no tranquility. I find fear to be a very puzzling emotion, stoked by all circumstances, creating all possible effects. Some shrink into a shell, some fired up into action, some others too shocked to react. Some like me, all of the above!
Just that the novel makes you think about such characters in real life. Like those who pushed forward cases to gain justice for Jessica Lall and Priyadarshini Mattoo and have been threatened with consequences. Like any whistle blower, take the IIT chap Dubey on the Golden Quadrilateral project who had to pay with his life. That though, totally different from living in fear, with each breath, wondering if you will reach your next destination safely, whether when you sleep, that you will wake up the next morning in the same bad, the same state.
Then why limit yourself. What if that unknown assailant is the Grim Reaper? Does the inevitability of death ever invoke fear in you? I suppose not, because we believe that it will come to each one of us, but just like all the above examples, you never know when. Unlike the above examples, however, it is seen as freedom,as a permanent reprieve. But things take on a completely new dimension when the Grim Reaper gives you a timetable. Routine discussions revealed that an uncle of mine had a brother. This brother was diagnosed with very advanced liver cancer. A specialist told them to take him home, spend no more money on doctors, surgery or medication. I tried to put myself into his shoes, but shuddered at the thought. No man deserves to look at death in the face everyday, to count his time down to the moment of reckoning. There can be no worse punishment than suffering, for instance, from any incurable, degenerative ailment. Having the life force slip from you, the sands of time as the sands of life. Watching the clock tick by, feeling the rhythm of your own breathing, steeped in the unfortunate knowledge that you wish you never had. Death should be quick and preferably arrive without too much prescience.
Randomness prevails, I remember my own brush with fear. It was way back in school, I guess I was 10 then. There was this guy, lets call him D who was giving me an exceptionally hard time. I was VERY soft back then and it the first time I had to face up to a bully. This guy had no exceptional physical ability, but he had a wicked mind and managed to team up with two more pathetic guys. Sadly, he used to live at barely a five minute walk from my place and we used the same routes. I distinctly remember being petrified while going home everyday, wondering what his gang would do when they stalked me while returning home. I never wanted to go home, preferably not even go to school, where I had to keep facing up to him. He was so twisted, even at that age he could play around with my mind. He'd invite me to his place for lunch, behave very nicely for a couple of days, give me hope that things would be okay. Then two days having passed, he would revert, making be even more morbidly afraid that I was initially. I'm not sure why I am letting all this out now, virtually 10+ years later, but I am unsure I ever faced more harrowing, persistent fear. It is not a good feeling, still makes my hairs stand up on end. Still find it difficult to dig up, guess I never did come to terms with the whole thing. What I find funny is that I have been bullied by the weirdest oddballs, people whom I could rape left, right and center today. But then, I somehow never had the will to fight.
The persistent fear prevails, will history repeat? I certainly hope not, I fervently hope not... January 05 The Walk of LifeDeath is such a puzzling concept, the fear and the lure, both equally powerful. Both emotions perfectly contrary, yet seemingly complementary. More often that not, the key to all ills, the ultimate cure for all that is wrong. No living soul can deny its magnetism, each one of us has experienced it in varying doses through our lives.
Agreeably the title has little to do with the opening paragraph, as does the rest of this piece. Ah yes, it shall slowly unfold, heck maybe not. Moving on, what brings this about is today's customary walk. It happened to be to a place called Matunga today, a walk of about 2 kilometres each way, which is just about enough. Walking always makes me think, sadly I happen to think aloud quite often leading to a multitude of bewildered stares from passers-by who cannot imagine what it is I suffer from.
Makes me realise that a walk is as good a complete cure as any. Feature this. Physically, a brisk walk helps burn calories, helps maintain posture and improves muscle tone. On the mental front, even mild exercise is known to speed up uptake of endorphins, serotonin and dopamine, happiness producing compounds, resulting in a fresher mind. And emotionally, it helps clear accumulated debris and reduce chaos. Most people these days are obsessed with music, thanks (?) to the profusion of portable music players and free availability of pirated music. Consequently, most of the people out on the streets have headphones in their ears, the other end being an i-Pod, a cell phone or any other whatchamacallit gizmo. Sad trend this is however. Half the joy of the walk, at the very least, is in the sights and sounds (and occassionally smells) of a walk.
Take today for instance. I was mulling over my usual bouts of loneliness, vacuum, and invariant single status (that feeling heightens after seeing half a dozen chicks **sigh**) when I chanced upon the vendor selling dabeli, standing at his stall, no customers in sight. Imagine standing there for 10 odd hours a day, feeling hope when you see a large group checking out the wares and approaching, and the far deeper disappointment when the simply pass ahead. Imagine, that from whatever he earns, he probably has to raise a family in this brutally expensive city. That given, he is better off than the pineapple seller, the chap is easily 60+, he should be living in comfort, reminiscing the good old days gone by. But at this age, he must subject himself to the daily torment. But even he is better off than the guy with only 2 limbs sitting on the pavement hungrily wolfing down what comes his way.
Every big city dweller sees these sights so often, we are apathetic to far worse than this. And I am rambling, getting nowhere close to what I originally intended to say. You see, a simple walk exposes you to so much, within and without you. Just seeing, listening, and feeling the world around you makes you feel alive. Each breath, each step, all an experience in itself. Reminds me of Calvin's line, "Life is like topography, Hobbes. There are summits of happiness and success, flat stretches of boring routine, and valleys of frustration and failure.". There are highs and there are lows. And always, the higher your summits, the deeper your valleys. But in any of the topography, you have to feel lucky to be alive. To be able to wake up in the morning, see the sun shining, hearing voices, how can you not want to live!
Dont take tomorrow for granted, remember that tomorrow is only a possibility, a gift to you from the cosmos. A gift you should always be thankful for. Why would anyone need to find a reason to live even in this crazy world?
Parts 4 to 6 of the Delhi Travelogue have not been published beacuse I was too bored to. Not that anyone cares anyway. December 26 Delhi Travelogue: Episode 3- The Gods need security!Much less cold today, I could actually move around the house without a sweater, the outside is obviously, less forgiving. The itinerary today is two-fold, a ride on the Delhi metro and a visit to the Akshardham temple. Uncle’s office is a stone throw away from a metro station called Rajendra Place, so we accompany him to office, then walk down to the metro station having armed ourselves with a short travel route which is long enough and contains atleast one transition to give a taste of traveling on the metro. Having reached station, 2 tickets are bought for Central Secretariat. However, for some contrived reason, we had to get off at a certain Rajiv chowk. I asked dad twice over what the point is getting off here if our tickets are till Central Secretariat only to receive responses like “Maybe both are the same”. Nevertheless, that is how it was meant to go, the “tickets” which are actually smart tokens (I’m supposing RFID) were bought, instructions were received at the automatic gates as to where the token had to be placed to gain access. After referring to the written instructions, a platform was determined and the wait began. It was barely a minute later that a train pulled in. Sleek, clean and stylish. Yup, it was impressive, no doubt. A little crowded, no doubt, but amazing. Screens and announcements inside keep you updated of which station is coming up and which side it will come on. We deboard (the metro people use this word, I know it doesn’t exist) at Rajiv chowk. Then it dawns that the Central Secretariat is on a different line, the yellow line to be precise, while our current path was on the blue line. Levels must be changed to get to the yellow line and such is done. This time the train is empty, but unfortunately being underground, all that is there to see is murky darkness! So be it. Having reached Central Secretariat, we exit the station, purchase fresh tickets, for return tickets do not exist on the metro, and follow the same path back home. The whole thing takes under an hour. Its been a good experience, I wonder when Mumbai will have it. There were shouts of Mumbai deserving the metro more than Delhi, but hats off to the Delhi folks who have kept the metro virtually spotless even after 2+ years of operation. Wonder if Mumbaikars will ever be capable of doing the same… The second visit was to Akshardham temple, the title inspired by that very visit. We went in style, having had uncle’s chauffer driven car at our service. The temple complex is fairly big, having a theme of some ten gates each signifying different things. The only one I ended seeing was Bhakti dwaar which was the first gate. Aargh! First things first. So we reached and entered the main premises. Here we had to deposit any and all items we had from a list with no discernible end. This included the likes of weapons, scissors, Swiss knifes (all mentioned in the same breath), the usual suspects cameras, cell phones, electronic diaries, regular diaries (??), all foods and beverages (except good ol’ water), and all nasheele padaarth, including all tobacco products and alcohol. They missed narcotic substances. But not allowing a regular diary? I mean h-u-llllll-ooooooo! Do you think some terrorist is actually going to sit in the temple complex and make notes of how to go about it? Or that he might make a map sitting right there in the premises? I wonder why the banned list fails to contain easels, canvas, paintbrushes, palette and colours. I mean, a guy could walk in with these weapons of mass destruction and actually paint something, thereby bypassing the need to photograph and succeeding in his mission. All said, that is the way they want it, and that is the way it must be done. So all items having been deposited (2 cell phones, 2 cameras), we went ahead hoping that all that remained was a little frisking. But the paranoia doesn’t end. Up ahead, while females can simply walk through, guys are given plastic trays in which they must take off everything except clothing (phew!), meaning belt, watch, wallet, pens, anything that is on your person besides a shirt, a pant and a sweater. Then you walk through with these in your hands and wait to be frisked thrice. Not an entirely pleasing experience to be touched all over, unmentionables included, by three different guys. No offence intended, but I swear these guys are horny homophiles who are actually paying money to be doing this. Having cleared all these layers, one is now into the real temple. The temple is incredible, the stone work will leave you agape. Its been nicely made, the main temple parikrama tells you the story of Shri. Swaminarayan via a number of paintings. Some of his (putative) belongings are also kept there. There are some really beautiful domes, some ornate woodwork as well. We see a bit, then decide to leave. The catch here is that you don’t go straight out from where you came in. It is mandatory to walk three times that distance, all around the premises, before you can exit. This has the dual effect of forcing you to walk along the parikrama as well as making you watch some of the attractions including a garden shaped as a lotus, a canteen and a souvenir shop. Most of the offered services including cloakroom, entry and shoe house are for free, contrary to my initial perception that these guys were out to make a killing. The paid services include a medium format movie show, an abhishek ritual, food and memoirs. Most of the work is done by volunteers. Satisfying to see that commercialization of such a landmark is not total so far at least. The thought then shifts this time (alliteration!) around to two things. First, for all our faith in the omnipotence of God, it is a telling blow that he needs so much protection from us. Second, where does the paranoia of security stop ruining our daily living experience. Where must the line be drawn between a long and horrendous living experience, to a possibly short, more fulfilling one. Let’s keep these for later when I have nothing to write about! December 23 Delhi Travelogue: Episode 2- Gatecrashers!Man this place is cold! The day was uneventful, composed of the elements of food and sleep, garnished with a little shivering for that extra kick. For those of you who are regular with newspaper reports (do BT et al qualify as newspapers?), Delhi is currently at the highest peak of wedding season, DT reports 30,000 weddings on Thursday. Dad’s associates happen to be fairly well placed in Delhi’s social circles and invites have been raining in. For the uninitiated, weddings in Delhi are a bombastic affair. People don’t mind going bankrupt or down and out if they can host a spectacular marriage ceremony – something to remember, remember meaning a period of maybe two weeks. Such irreverent spending defies logic according to me, but to each his own. That’s just the way it is.
Back to the track. Dad’s tax lawyer buddy we are staying with has been attending one ceremony or the other nearly a week on a trot because each wedding is composed of a minimum of 3 and a maximum (possibly) of 6 separate ceremonies, done on different days and in different places. If you are close to the family, odds are you’ll be invited to all of them and expected to attend as well. Uncle had invites for two events this day, a mehendi ceremony and a wedding ceremony and both were to be attended. Since me and dad had nothing better to do, uncle asked us to tag along. Whaddaheck I say, let’s go!
So the three of us head out to the mehendi ceremony, find the place, which unfortunately happens to be a crammed place stuffed with people in three different rooms. One in which the actual ceremony is going on, there is live music by a troupe of five. Uncle claims it is one of those that are springing up at a rate of two per gali, one of those, “Punjabi music group” sorts. Decent music I’d say. Then a booze center, available vices are whisky (two varieties), vodka (Smirnoff regular and citrus twist), gin, beer, wine and something that looks like blue Curacao but is in fact called sambuca. Dad and uncle settle for some Black Label and soda, I follow in their tow. Starters are circulating, chicken, fish, mutton and finger chips, almost forgot about the spring rolls. Good stuff, but pigging out on the stuff on day 1 doesn’t seem like a good idea given the amount of food that awaits in the rest of the trip, so I exercise admirable (?) self restraint.
Once two drinks have been downed (I stuck to a half :(), it’s time to move, another ceremony awaits. It is found some effort later, not due to the two inside, but because it was a little non-descript. Now here was someone well and truly breaking the mould, the spread was virtually zilch, there was no alcohol or non-vegetarian food! Whatever food was there, did nothing to whet the appetite although I would stop at saying it was no good. So a few quick bites and a perfunctory greeting to the host and we were on our way. We got back before 12, which from what I hear happens to be shockingly early. My eyes are barely staying open, you won’t find me complaining.
Day 1 draws to an end, leaving me thinking about a few things. Each time I visit the life I see here is nowhere close, not even drawing a single parallel to my regular life. It is, of course, a function of the class you belong to, but everything jumps out at you in that it is something you barely associate with. The chauffer driven cars, the servants in droves, the lavish parties night after night. They work just as hard mind you, maybe even more so. But this “social scene” is so integral to their diurnal existence. The true blue friends and the plastic faces. The warm greeting and the forced curving of the lips. The kittie parties, the subliminal and ostentatious showing off of wealth, power and position. To me, it seems so unreal though each one of us sees many of these elements often, only manifested differently. Is this existence any less real than ours? Is this kind of society fake and emotionally bankrupt? The latter, probably so, the former much less so. We are nobody to pass judgment on what is fulfilling, what defines joy is so personal and individual, there can be no debate here. If being part of an elite social circle brings joy to some, then for them it is just as fulfilling for them as charity might be for you. Maybe it isn’t even as central to their lives as I may think. Closing statement- it might be somewhat hollow but it isn’t something to be looked down upon. I rest my case. December 20 Delhi Travelogue: Episode 1- Loo blues!The twain began along with the train on late afternoon Tuesday as a long walk to reach my compartment wasn’t made particularly comfortable by the fact that the suitcases with wheels help no one because they neither have balance nor can one drag them around standing erect. If you have no clue what I’m talking about, kindly ignore my rants. Point being, me and dad got to our seats quite comfortably and settled ourselves in the company of a family of four, a ruddy coloured father, a mother who was so starved of laughter that she found two things out of three funny (even when they weren’t to be) and their two daughters. There was also this rather plump student of medicine, married and still studying for an exam lying at the end of six months here on. Dressed appropriately in red, the words “raging bull” seem more than appropriate with no disrespect intended towards plump people or practitioners of medicine. My life often thrives on both, the former for being (unjustifiably ;-)) the butt of ridicule and the latter for curing my various ills through a healthy fear of being robbed blind.
The departure was pretty much on time, we breezed through the remainder of the city and were doing an easy pace. Then the call came. Not too strong, but I thought, might as well. No need to keep it in ferment. With this, I headed out to the closest loos, the doors looked well-made (no, not inviting) vis-à-vis most trains I see more often. But there was a catch, no handles, no type of grip by which it was possible to grip or pull or push or for that matter do anything with that door except crush it inwards with something particularly heavy. My 139 Trickle IQ brain (don’t snigger, I know lotsa people who got lower) refused to accept that a bathroom door made for the commons was something that was beyond my ken. So, I revised the prior decision and thought that a little ferment wouldn’t do any harm, so there. I returned to my seat, this happened to have a ceaseless view of the said object, deciding to crack this conundrum through a more fortunate individual. Two more came and went, both failing in the task. A little vindication for my brain. Not wanting any further embarrassment, I (very smartly, if I may add) went to the other end of the compartment, also a necessary step to “check out” fellow passengers and detect “objects of interest”. And then the mystery unfolded- those loos could not be opened because they were occupied! An open loo manifested itself quite easily for its door lacked the ability to close! Pip pip!
The reader is informed at this point that the tale does not end here, or the title “Loo blues” would be hard to justify. Those of you who have recently journeyed on the Rajdhani may be well aware that the toilets there have transcended the passé rusted levers and press-to-get water taps, and are now accoutered (equipped, GRE word it is) with electronic buttons. There are two, one for the flush and another that dispenses a fixed amount of water to the lota for which a holder has been thoughtfully placed. The flush is particularly deadly, for it is now pressurized with the assistance of hydraulics and is actually capable of keeping the pot clean. The issue: every time after someone flushes, the pressurizing unit needs to recharge for the next flushing, this releases a sharp hissing sound for little over a second. A gentleman who was required to be sleeping in the passageway was justifiably vexed as to how he could get a good night’s sleep with that damned noise! The chap responsible for the bedding was forced to hear his harangue for a certain duration of time, but failed to be of assistance. Expected, since he didn’t know what made the sound in first place. Emergency summons went out to the on board engineer and technicians to shut the hissing sound so that the gentleman could peaceably pass into the realm of dreams. The Rajdhani prides its ISO 9001 tag and the said personnel were on their toes to be of assistance. They then clarified to the poor sardarji that he would simply have to live with it for the sound was of the flush and there was no trick, technique or black magic which would make it go away. The matter laid to rest, a quarter hour of entertainment over, it was beddy-bye time. A calm sleep in the regular rocking of the train and the hissing of the hydraulic assembly.
Next up: Episode 2- Gatecrashers! |
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